I received a note back from aunt Ruth today via email and feel bad for making her feel (as best she could describe) *numb*.. I think that's the worst thing about me.. I know when things have to be said.. But when I say them sometimes I feel bad for how the people feel in the end.. My intensions weren't to hurt anyone or cause them to feel bad in any way.. However.. In the grand sceme of things I think ultimately the end of a feeling is what is best.. Now we can move forward and go from there..
I suppose that is what brings me to todays topic.. Communication
Ron and I have awesome communication.. I think we drive some people batty because we do talk so much however I love that we are always talking.. No matter if its sitting in the same room or over the phone.. That simple text that says *love you* to know your being thought of or whatever.. Communication is always and has always been a key factor for us.
If you don't communicate how you feel.. Than how will anyone ever know?
But along with communication comes the ability to listen as much as speak..
Had my aunt (for example) read my letter and not heard me.. The out come could be very different than it was... Or what I had hoped it would be.
you have to be able to do both listen and speak for communication to work. No matter if the news is hard to take or easy.. If you agree or not.. If you've been hurt or hurt someone else..
Life will always toss its curveballs at you.. You will ride the highs with your arms stretched out and scream as it spirals down..
But you have to remember there is always an upside to follow.. And as long as you speak your mind and say how you feel and the person hears you.. That upside could happen quicker than you think.
always remember that you are only given one chance in life.. So live it to its fullest.. If you've hurt someone never be to proud to say your sorry.. If you've been hurt never not listen to the apology.. But do with it as you wish.. Love often.. And do not allow your past to define your future..
I know that for me.. I would be a miserable sad person if I let my past as a child define me as a person today.. Accept that some questions will never have answers.. But don't dwell on it..
Your childhood molds you to who you are today.. Even in the worst of childhood situations that you wonder what life lessons it was supposed to teach you.. Just accept that answers aren't always there and to not live in that past..
The past can't be changed.. You can't erase it.. You have no choice but to accept it.. But only you allow it to hurt you today and in your future..
Always remember that you hold the key to your happiness.. No one else..
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